One of the best ways to make yourself invaluable involves doing what may seem unthinkable:

Putting yourself first.

“No!” you, my selfless reader, are thinking. “My client comes first.” “My family comes first.” “My team comes first.” “My friends come first.” “Society comes first.” “The planet comes first.”

Wonderful sentiments.

But what about you?

I’ve come to appreciate selfish altruism more and more.

Maybe that’s because most of the time I’m being helpful to someone, I’m getting something out of it.

If I refer someone I respect for a job, I add value to both parties while keeping myself top of mind with someone in a position to hire others.

If I recommend the job resources in my newsletter, I may gain a subscriber.

If I give someone an invite to my community, I give them access to 2,000 brilliant marketers, and I gain a deeper connection with one more.

When I created my cheat sheet for how I can help others and shared it via the link http://bit.ly/howdavidcanhelp, I was being selfish in the above ways. I was also saving time from having to email this over and over or get on more calls. That one link can assist with quite a few of the out-of-the-blue notes I get.

There’s another kind of selfishness too, and that’s about taking care of yourself. You can’t always be the servant and never get served.

Amanda Goetz, a brilliant marketer who is one of the more open people I follow in terms of discussing life rather than just business, recently posted about what she’s doing for herself.

She tweeted, “2021 has kicked off with a lot of life changes for me – trying to embrace this with hope instead of sadness. I will continue to seek stability in my 3Rs: Routines, Relationships, Rituals.”

That’s all about self-care, doing what you need for yourself so you can better support others — your clients, loved ones, employees, and others who rely on you.

Given what has happened in this country this month, we’ve seen what can happen when selfishness takes an extreme form and turns into treason. 

I also know my share of narcissists. They’re not that fun to deal with.

Most people I know, however, err on the other side. They’re too selfless. 

Ask yourself how you can best help others. What can you offer? How can you offer it? Is there a way to offer it more efficiently than you do now? 

If those offers benefit you, that’s okay. Don’t let that stop you from doing what you can for others. 

Keep the altruism front and center.

If you’re selfish in the process, that’s the selfishness that the world needs a lot more of.

Happy New Year. Please be sure to let me know any way I can be helpful to you this year, whether or not it benefits me.

Want to share your selfish altruism with others? Post it in the Serial Marketers #offers section. 



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March 3, 6pm
First Wednesday keeps going strong. We have dozens of people RSVPing for this fun NYC tradition led by Zack Rosenberg. 

March 16-20
I’m not sure if Stubb’s delivers to me, but I’ll be seeing if they can capture any of the magic with the online festival. “Register today to take advantage of the unique opportunities this event has to offer, including keynotes, Conference sessions, Music Festival showcases, Film Festival screenings, world-class networking, and the unexpected discoveries that are always a part of SXSW, all in a digital setting.”


Keep checking out the #jobs channel in Serial Marketers for more. Here are some great opportunities shared there or sent to me directly.

Head of Growth Marketing
Upstream is looking to hire an amazing growth marketer to get our app into the hands of every professional worldwide. We’re looking for someone who understands virality, is an expert at analytics, and is curious, persistent, and enthusiastic. If you are the person your friends go to when they have growth and marketing questions – we want to hire you!

Social Media Manager
One Vanderbilt is hiring a Social Media Marketing Manager for its new immersive and observation deck experience located at the top of One Vanderbilt. Situated adjacent to Grand Central Terminal, One Vanderbilt, at 1,401 feet tall, has redefined the NYC skyline, and this is an exciting opportunity to join a small, dedicated marketing team launching its one-of-a-kind experience in 2021.

Product Marketing Manager
Via Krista Thomas in the community: 
This Product Marketing Manager will be responsible for clearly positioning our Data products, including Amobee’s Brand Intelligence software, Data Management Platform, Amobee Audiences, and data/inventory partnership and products for our sales team, clients and the market. This individual’s responsibilities will include defining product positioning, developing the go-to market strategy and executing the plan across the organization while monitoring business metrics and adapting strategies when necessary.

Other job resources:

  • Ad Ops Online: Job listings for ad operations, programmatic account management, sales operations, and more.
  • Advisable: Get instant access to top marketing freelancers
  • AMA Job Board: Listings from the American Marketing Association (maybe you can also ask them anything)
  • Built in NYC: Jobs at a range of levels and functions, as long as you’re okay working in this quaint, backwater hamlet.
  • CareerList: Here’s a form for companies hiring and a form for job seekershere’s the public list with tabs for both 
  • Content Writing Jobs: Content marketers, enjoy
  • Creative Women of Color: List yourself in the database and find talent, via Women Who Create
  • ExecThread: Senior roles spanning a range of verticals and cities; membership is free but fully vetted (this uses my referral ID to get you in faster)
  • GLG: Get paid to share your topical expertise; it can lead to some interesting conversations at a potentially decent hourly rate
  • Grace Blue Transitions: A portal for hirers and seekers with resources from this exec recruiting firm
  • The Hired Guns: An array of jobs in marketing and related fields at brands, agencies, and media companies
  • Hue: Amplifying voices of people in color working in marketing
  • Hunterz: A way for connectors to get paid to introduce startups to large enterprises
  • Lead5: A paid service for executive roles, plus intel on changes with companies and PE investments; you can try a risk-free weeklong trial to see if it’s any good for your needs
  • Lunch Club: Match 1:1 around predetermined goals with accomplished professionals (free)
  • NYC Ad Jobs & Networking: A popular Facebook group
  • One Club for Creativity: COVID-19 jobs Board
  • #OpenToWork: There’s a channel in Serial Marketers where you can share what you’re looking for
  • Pangea: Where you can hire college freelancers (and college students can get gigs)
  • Pocit: A platform connecting people of color with jobs in the tech industry
  • Remotists: Remote startup jobs, chronicled weekly
  • Sales Hustle Stack: Find platform-based gigs and other creative ways to earn some extra cash
  • Startup.Jobs: There’s a section for marketing jobs
  • Teal Job Tracker: A free Chrome extension to manage and enhance your job search
  • TechNY Daily: While more technical, there are also some sales and marketing jobs at NY startups.
  • VC Job Boards: AlephEniac VenturesPearSequoiaUnion Square Ventures
  • VentureLoop: Free startup job listings; their paid option is $15/month and might surface more leads (but it might not).
  • Wanted: Wanted helps top talent in tech and marketing find a job at your desired pay. Plug in your salary, stay anonymous at first, and connect with companies that want to recruit you.

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