With the post-pandemic societal changes, here’s one I don’t think we’re prepared for: the amount of time and energy expended in reorienting relationships.
I’m going to get to just how and why these shifts are taking place, but how I got there was convoluted.
I keep a book report journal where, longhand, I write synopses of and takeaways from every book I read or listen to. I won’t put a book away physically or digitally until doing so; I’ve been doing this since 2004, so there are several journals full of these writeups.
Catching up over the holiday weekend, I wrote my notes about the book Optionality by Richard Meadows which at times offered a well-reasoned and well-researched treatise about how to maximize one’s opportunities. Other times, it reads like it’s only written for people without families, friends, pets, hobbies, interests, or other commitments beyond earning a living a few hours a day. Enjoy.
Meadows cited the oft-mentioned Dunbar’s Number, coined by Robin Dunbar, that refers to how we can keep about 150 relationships active at any time, and this is a natural facet of societal organization. What I had forgotten before doing my book report is that Meadows referred to there being a spectrum of closer and more different relationships, all with their own ‘Dunbar Numbers.’ That’s why I reread all my notes and keep these journals.
Researching this further (I was skeptical about how well-researched Meadows’ book is), The Atlantic just ran an interview with Dunbar who has a new book out called Friends, and I’m pretty sure it’s not the teleplay of the reunion special. Dunbar does indeed offer a range in terms of the number of active relationships, from intimates (your partner – or your partner and a half) to known faces:
- Intimates: 1.5
- Close friends: 5
- Best Friends: 15
- Good friends: 50
- Friends: 150
- Acquaintances: 500
- Known names: 1,500
- Known faces: 5,000
This alone was comforting, as I have 15,300 contacts in my Google Contacts database and feel like I’m below-average at remembering names and faces. This is a reminder that I may just meet too many people – and these are just the ones whose contact information I save – so I may only know 10% of their names.
Also noteworthy: it adds a layer of realism to the series Friends that seemed lacking by the size of their Manhattan apartments. They all had five close friends.
What was most striking in the Dunbar interview is the discussion of relationships as work.
Dunbar said in The Atlantic, “It takes about 200 hours of investment in the space of a few months to move a stranger into being a good friend. This fits with our data, which suggests that close friends are very expensive in terms of time investment to maintain… It just means friendships require work.”
That work becomes more pronounced the closer you get. As someone whose circle of intimacy changed during the pandemic from one to zero, I have an even more personal appreciation for the time investment that comes with maintaining intimate and close friendships.
Dunbar said when you form a new committed, intimate relationship, that comes at the expense of two close relationships that you can no longer maintain, and those have ripple effects throughout your circles.
What Dunbar doesn’t say in the interview is that when you have your intimate relationship move somewhere else in the circle (for me, I’m fortunate, as it shifted to a very close friendship), that leaves room to cultivate new relationships and create a different kind of ripple.
We can now get some sense of the expenditure of effort. What we still might not be ready for is how many people will be spending an unprecedented amount of energy (by modern, Western standards) in reestablishing, reevaluating, and reworking relationships.
There’s a lot more I want to write – and that I already wrote – but I’m going to save more for next week.
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July 9, 1 pm
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July 14, 12:00 pm
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CANVA FOR CREATIVE CLOUD USERS
July 14, 12:30 pm
“In this session, seasoned designer Lidia Varesco Racoma will show you how she bridged the Adobe–Canva divide. Learn the basics of setting up, navigating, and creating and editing graphics in Canva. Plus, we will review advanced branding and sharing features that will help create an organized and brand-focused workflow.”
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July 15, 1 pm
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Keep checking out the #jobs channel in Serial Marketers for more. Here are some great opportunities shared there or sent to me directly.
Via Ari Berkowitz in the community:
Multiple openings on the Social Marketing team, including:
- Associate Social Marketing Manager
- Associate Influencer Marketing Manager
- Social Marketing Manager
- Senior Social Strategist
- Content Creator
- TikTok Content Creator
- Group Director
Content Production Manager
Via Eric Tash in the community
“We’re seeking a Content Production Manager (CPM) to manage the end-to-end process of planning, producing, and distributing Inturact’s client’s content. It is important that this role takes no hand holding and we are looking for someone that can take our production & distribution process to the next level.”
Demand Gen Manager
Via Melissa Wallace in the community
“The Manager of Demand Generation will be responsible for the strategy and execution of marketing programs that capture and nurture leads across multiple channels. In this role, you’ll be responsible for programs to generate and nurture leads via events, SEM, email, retargeting, targeted social advertising, and cooperative marketing with partners.”
Sr. Manager, Performance Marketing
“The Sr. Manager, Integrated Media reports to the Director of Media, guiding strategic planning, budgeting and execution, and analytics for offline, video, publisher direct, programmatic, search, social, and affiliate media to support the PetSmart brand.”
Vice President of Marketing
* Proven track record developing and executing growth plan for enterprise adtech/martech business to achieve significant growth through effective use of lead generation and content marketing optimization
* Experience and proven metrics leading growth from $ single digits to $ double digits within a short timespan
* Has redesigned or created a successful lead/demand generation engine from scratch, in addition to having significant account-based marketing experience
* Confidence and ability to pitch CEO and Board Members as well as externally pitch to enterprise CMOs and engaged in industry thought leadership on behalf of the company
Head of Marketing
Collaborative, well-rounded, and a strong communicator, the future Head of Marketing has:
* Well rounded marketing experience – digital, performance, content, brand, communications
* Ability to lead the vision and execution of marketing strategies
* Ability and desire to build, scale, and managed a team of high performers
* Success in marketing function for high-growth DTC company in heavily regulated industry
* A strong communicator, comfortable with ambiguity and collaborative nature of high-growth startup
Los Angeles, CA
“Self-starter who moves quickly, yet strategically with an affinity for product, and is excited about continuing to scale Fancy Sprinkles Products, the future Brand Manager has:
* 4-6 years proven track record in driving strategic brand management for DTC eCommerce brands
* Expertise with food, beauty, jewelry, personal care, spirits — DTC ecomm in house or relevant agency experience
* Works hands-on in campaign management from briefing, to ideation, to execution. Content background with strong storytelling and project management skills. Ability to be successful with marketing budgets in 1MM-5MM range.
* Results driven mentality with track record of value creation in previous roles, and passion to innovate in the category”
Head of Customer and Partner Marketing
“Bbot is a rapidly growing startup that makes contactless ordering technology for bars, restaurants, hotels, and other hospitality establishments. This position is full-time and is remote work from home.”
Influencer Marketing Manager,
Influencer Marketing Strategist,
Long Island City, New York, remote options
“We are Performance Branding experts, working with scalable and enterprise brands including Nike, Spanx, and Shake Shack. We leverage digital channels and creative to grow our clients. Data drives our decision making and enables us to operate like trusted business partners. WITHIN works with brands to collapse the funnel between performance and brand marketing unifying objectives, targets, strategy, and implementation.”
Director of Marketing
Via Dwight Griesman in the community
“The Director of Marketing at Severalnines will be expected to craft and execute strategies that drive traffic of high-quality leads to our website to contribute to the growth of our community user and customer base. The Director will also develop the strategy to craft content that both acquires, converts, and educates our current and potential customers before, during, and after the sales process.”
Demand Marketing Manager
Product Marketing Manager
San Fransisco, CA, Open to remote
“CaptivateIQ is on a journey to modernize the world of incentive compensation. Our hope is that people will feel more connected at work if there is greater transparency in how they are rewarded for their efforts. We partner with amazing companies like Carta, Intercom, Gong, and Newfront Insurance to simplify their commissions. Since launching in 2017, we have raised $63M and are backed by leading investors including Sequoia Capital, Accel, S28 Capital, Amity Ventures, and Y Combinator.”
More via Hunt Club
* Mizzen+Main: Director of Growth Marketing (Dallas, TX)
* Stealth Mode Marketing Agency: Head of Brand Strategy/Founding Partner (United States)
* NXT Ascent: Chief Growth Officer (United States)
Other job resources:
- Advisable: Get instant access to top marketing freelancers
- AMA Job Board: Listings from the American Marketing Association (maybe you can also ask them anything)
- Beeler.Tech: Job listings for ad operations, programmatic account management, sales operations, and more.
- Built in NYC: Jobs at a range of levels and functions, as long as you’re okay working in this quaint, backwater hamlet.
- CareerList: Here’s a form for companies hiring and a form for job seekers; here’s the public list with tabs for both
- Content Writing Jobs: Content marketers, enjoy
- Creative Women of Color: List yourself in the database and find talent, via Women Who Create
- Demand Curve: Growth and marketing jobs
- DiscoverTheTalent: An initiative designed to build partnerships with businesses to advocate, train, and hire military spouses
- ExecThread: Senior roles spanning a range of verticals and cities; membership is free but fully vetted (this uses my referral ID to get you in faster)
- Gently Ventures: Helps scale businesses by finding the right talent
- GLG: Get paid to share your topical expertise; it can lead to some interesting conversations at a potentially decent hourly rate
- Growth Collective: Apply to join this network of notable freelance marketers
- Grace Blue Transitions: A portal for hirers and seekers with resources from this exec recruiting firm
- The Hired Guns: An array of jobs in marketing and related fields at brands, agencies, and media companies
- Hue: Amplifying voices of people in color working in marketing
- Hunterz: A way for connectors to get paid to introduce startups to large enterprises
- Lead5: A paid service for executive roles, plus intel on changes with companies and PE investments; you can try a risk-free weeklong trial to see if it’s any good for your needs
- Lunch Club: Match 1:1 around predetermined goals with accomplished professionals (free)
- NYC Ad Jobs & Networking: A popular Facebook group
- One Club for Creativity: COVID-19 jobs Board
- #OpenToWork: There’s a channel in Serial Marketers where you can share what you’re looking for
- Pangea: Where you can hire college freelancers (and college students can get gigs)
- Pocit: A platform connecting people of color with jobs in the tech industry
- Questions to Ask for a Marketing Role: What questions should you ask when starting a new marketing role or job?
- Remotists: Remote startup jobs, chronicled weekly
- Sales Hustle Stack: Find platform-based gigs and other creative ways to earn some extra cash
- Startup.Jobs: There’s a section for marketing jobs
- Teal Job Tracker: A free Chrome extension to manage and enhance your job search
- TechNY Daily: While more technical, there are also some sales and marketing jobs at NY startups.
- VC Job Boards: Aleph, Eniac Ventures, Pear, Sequoia, Union Square Ventures
- VentureLoop: Free startup job listings; their paid option is $15/month and might surface more leads (but it might not).
- Venwise: Submit your job interests here and get in front of their roster of hiring leads; select “Serial Marketers” under “How did you find us”
- Wanted: Wanted helps top talent in tech and marketing find a job at your desired pay.
Do you run or enjoy other job listing sites? Let me know, and I’ll share them.
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